Is This Coercive Control? Paste a Message and See What the Words Show
A Free Coercive Control Checker for the Message in Front of You
How the Tool Analyzes Your Message
When you press the button, your message goes to Anthropic’s Claude with instructions drawn from our published method. Claude looks for the tactics that method describes, such as isolation, monitoring, threats, or degradation. For each tactic it names, it gives a short reason in plain language, tied to the words you pasted.
The coercive control analysis is aligned with The Codebook for Identifying Coercive Control in Longitudinal Artifacts. Any analysis can miss a tactic. Read each reason provided, compare it to what you have lived, and decide what fits.
Questions People Ask About Coercive Control in Messages
Is this coercive control or just an argument?
In an argument, both people can usually speak, push back, and walk away without fear. Coercive control is a pattern where one person uses tactics like monitoring, threats, or isolation to limit the other person’s freedom over time. One heated message can belong to either. This free page can show which tactics the words may show, but telling the two apart takes many moments seen together.
How do I know if my partner’s texts are coercive control?
Look at what the texts do over time, not at one message alone. Do they track where you are, demand quick replies, cut you off from friends or family, control money, or warn you about what happens if you do not comply? Do you change how you live to avoid their reaction? You can paste one message here to see which tactics the words may show. The answer comes from the pattern across many texts.
Can AI analyze my texts for coercive control?
AI can analyze the words in a message and point to language that matches known tactics of coercive control. This free page does that with Anthropic’s Claude and a published method, and it explains each tactic in plain language. AI can also miss things or name a tactic that is not there, which is why we publish our error rates. Treat the result as a careful first analysis, never a final answer about your relationship.
What does coercive control look like in text messages?
It can look like constant check-ins asking where you are and who you are with. It can look like anger when you do not reply fast, put-downs, guilt, threats about children or money, or rules about what you wear or who you see. Sometimes it looks loving on the surface. What matters is how often these messages repeat and what they lead you to do or stop doing.
Is there a coercive control test I can take online?
There are online quizzes, and this free page lets you paste one message and see which tactics the words may show. No online test can tell you for certain whether you are experiencing coercive control. That depends on a pattern across time, on your fears, and on the limits placed on your life. A quiz or an analysis can help you put words to what you notice and decide what to look at next.
Can co-parenting app messages show coercive control?
Yes, they can. Messages in co-parenting apps can carry the same tactics as any other channel, such as threats about custody, blame, control of the schedule, or pressure framed as concern for the children. Because these apps keep dated records, they can help show a pattern over time. You can paste one co-parenting message here, after replacing any child’s name with a placeholder, to see what the words may show.
How do I prove coercive control with text messages?
Proof usually rests on a pattern, so one text is rarely enough. Keep messages in full with their dates and times, do not edit them, and save copies in more than one place. Note what happened around each message and how it affected you. Many messages analyzed together can show tactics repeating over time. One message here is a first look, and a case in the Coercive Control Evidence Vault can help you organize the whole record.
Ready to See the Whole Pattern? Open a Case in the Coercive Control Evidence Vault
With many messages and records, the Vault analyzes them together and shows how tactics repeat over time, as a dated view of the whole pattern.